My understanding is that my antivirus software was trying to warn me that anything that I sent over that network could be seen by others who were also on the network.
The message got me thinking about how damaging that our insecurities can be for us and for our relationships. The reality is that everyone is insecure sometimes, but we need to work to overcome these uncertainties and anxieties otherwise they will otherwise define who we are.
For example, if a person thinks that everyone hates them then they will instinctively act defensively or even with hostility when they meet people. The result is that people will find them hard to talk to or to be around and so they will avoid them. This isolation then reinforces the lie that no one likes them.
Or, if someone believes that they are useless then they will find it difficult to hear praise or to work well at things. The end result is that they don’t do well at things and so others will assume that they actually aren’t very good at things.
Insecurities are inevitable and a part of life, but we need to consider how we seek freedom from them.
One of the things that will help us is seeing ourselves as we are. Many insecurities are fed by the lie that a perfect life is possible but the road to freedom from insecurities involves accepting that we are imperfect. If we get something wrong, that shouldn’t define us as a failure but it will if we believe that we should be perfect.
Insecurities are also fed by negativity and unfair criticism and we so need to make sure that we have people around us who will encourage us. Encouragement can involve constructive criticism, but a true friend and encourager will always want what is best for us.
Insecurities can be destroyed or at least diminished if we approach situations with an open mind. Instead of assuming a situation will go wrong, we need to try to reject our insecurities as we approach a new situation and to allow that situation to (hopefully anyway) disprove our anxiety.
The most important thing for me is to find absolute security and I am grateful for the way that my faith in Jesus gives me security.
- Jesus loves and accepts us
- Jesus wants what is best for us
- If we follow and trust in Jesus, he promises fulfillment in life
- Even when we get things wrong, Jesus doesn’t reject us
The Bible describes God as a Rock solid foundation and I am grateful for the way that he offers us security for life.
I pray that God would help all of us to find freedom from insecurity.